When I was in my teenage years, I always dreamed walking down the aisle with my parents beside me. How I wanted to get marry to the person who I am destined to be with for the rest of time. But as I grew older, I realized that there’s more than just the wedding. Wedding is just the front feature of marriage and motherhood. More so, wedding is just a one day event. But being a wife and a mother, it’s for a lifetime through thick and thin. As I am observing some of my family members and few of my friends getting into marriage life and motherhood. Anyone can be called a wife and a mother, but it’s saddening to say, not all carries well the role of a mother and a wife. Being a wife and a mother, it’s a very wonderful and fulfilling role. And also very challenging.
I am not a mother and a wife yet. I’m still in the season now in which I am letting Abba Father hone me to become the mother and the wife that He wanted me to be. Truth be told, It takes years for me to realize everything. And I have a clearer picture now as to why my past relationship were a debacle. Aside from those weren’t part of God’s will. God have seen that I wasn’t ready for a lifetime commitment just yet.
As I’m getting to know Abba Father deeply. And as my love for Him grew immensely each day. Abba Father taught me by the Holy Spirit the characters of a Godly wife and a Godly mother that one must possess in order to have a peace and loving home.
In order to have a blissful and blessed home, as a mother and a wife, you should always be on your bended knees. It’s very important to lift your family up in prayers. And knowing that the devils are the destroyers of wonderful things especially to what God has blessed you with, by being prayerful, you are always powerful to fight against the enemies. Prayers is also your lifeline. Prayers serve an imperative part in your family. It is something that always makes you closer and more intimate to Abba Father. Prayer keeps your anointing abounds. Even Apostle Paul reminded us to pray fervently. Pray without ceasing.
“Pray without ceasing.” -1 Thessalonians 5:17 (KJV)
Do not underestimate the power of prayers. Because it can move mountains. It can save you, it can protect you, it can sustain you, it can make impossible possible. So, plug yourself into the power of prayer. And call your family to prayers.
Sinners all are we, we were actually bound to die. But because of God’s greatest love for us. He gave us the chance to live and started anew. He extended grace through His beloved Son, Jesus Christ. We don’t deserved His grace. But because of Jesus Christ, He made us worthy to receive it. Being a woman, God’s grace must also be reflected upon us. By our actions, words, and thoughts. We must always be gracious by showing mercy, compassion and kindness not just to our family but also to others. I always believe, what the children see to their parents or to older people, they’re trying to mimic it. As a mother, always exude grace. Because you’re the main person they’re really looking up to.
“A gracious woman retaineth honour..” Proverbs 11:16a KJV
In this society in which everyone is compromising. Not abstaining themselves from all appearance of evil. It’s very rare to find someone who have a high moral standards. Almost everyone throw their pearls to the swine. Being a virtuous woman is like a pearl. Precious and hard to find. You don’t have to be like everyone else. It’s better to be rare and upright. You may sound like an old music to other people, but it doesn’t mean you are unpleasant to listen to. You are a wonderful melody to one’s ear and that’s of Abba Father. Blessed is a woman who is virtuous but more than that, blessed are your husband and children to have you for you are a virtuous woman.
“A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband..” -Proverbs 12:4a KJV
“And now, my daughter, fear not; I will do to thee all that thou requirest: for all the city of my people doth know that thou art a virtuous woman.” -Ruth 3:11 KJV
4. Full of Wisdom
It takes wisdom to run a business well so does with family. It also takes wisdom to raise children and making the marriage life work and stand strong in test of time. One character that a Godly wife and mother must hold is having a wisdom. When you have wisdom, it will help you decide and handle things maturely. How to have a wisdom? Ask God to pour you with His wisdom. Heavenly wisdom is far better than earthly wisdom. Please remember that.
“Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.” -Proverbs 14:1 KJV
“She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.” -Proverbs 31:26 KJV
5. Takes care of her household
Being a woman is more than just a pretty face and having good-shaped body. When you plan to enter marriage and motherhood or you are probably a mother and a wife now, you must know how to take care of your household.
“The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life. She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands. She is like the merchant’s ships; she bringeth her food from afar. She riseth also while it is night. And giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens. She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruits of her hands she planteth a vineyard. She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms. She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night. She layeth her hand to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff. She stretcheth out her hand to the poor: yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy. She is not afraid of the snow for her household are clothed with scarlet. ” -Proverbs 31: 11-21 KJV
6. Good at craft making and very initiative
Paper craft, woodcraft, textiles (embroidery, crocheting, knitting, weaving). These are just to name a few of different types of craft. In Proverbs 31:22, A Proverbs 31 woman or a Godly wife and a mother must have an idea of craft making, “She maketh herself coverings of tapestry, her clothing is silk and purple.” and in Proverbs 31:24, one must be initiative too, “She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.”
7. Trusting heart
Before you became the wife of your husband and the mother of your children. You were God’s child first and always is. And you were Jesus Christ’ bride. And always will be. Your life may have change. Do not forget who Abba Father in your life. Who is Jesus Christ to you and what is the role of the Holy Spirit in your life. No matter what happens, even when you’re at your highest and joyous moment, or even when the oceans rise and thunder’s roar. Keep trusting in Abba Father, in the Holy Spirit, in Lord Jesus.
“Trust in the Lord with all thine heart: and lean not unto thine own understanding.” -Proverbs 3:5
Be like Ruth, as she’s a virtuous woman and she’s also loyal to Naomi and to her God. You should too. You should always be loyal to your family, to your husband. And above all, to Abba Father.
“And Ruth said, intreat me not to leave thee, or to return from following after thee: for whither thou goest, I will go; and where thou lodgest, I will lodge; thy people shall be my people. And they God, my God.” -Ruth 1:16 KJV
9. Strong and Courageous
In marriage life and motherhood, there will be times that emergencies or problem arise. But do not allow it to consume and to frighten you. Be strong and courageous for God is with you all the time. You will prevail.
“Have not I commanded thee? Be strong and of good courage; be not afraid , neither be thou dismayed; for the Lord thy God is with thee whithersoever thou goest.” -Joshua 1:9 KJV
10. Be a help meet to your husband
I am not a wife myself yet, but what I do know aside from being submissive to a husband. It’s a wife duty to become a help mate to her husband. To support him all the time with his goals. To be there for him always. To have his back. God took one of Adam’s ribs and created Eve for her to become his help mate. So you should become your husband’s help mate too.
“And the Lord God said, it is not good that the man should be alone; I will make an help meet for him.” -Genesis 2:18 KJV
Last but surely never the least, as this is really important. Being faithful to your husband and to Abba Father and to the Holy Spirit and to Lord Jesus.
“For your husband is your Maker, Whose name is the LORD of hosts; And your Redeemer is the Holy One of Israel, Who is called the God of all the earth.” -Isaiah 54:5
This is definitely the list of my top 11 characters that a Godly wife and a mother must have. I thank God for the wisdom. To God be all the highest glory and adoration. The grace of our Lord Jesus Christ be with you. Amen.